Gender Neutral Baby Clothes

My husband really wants to be surprised. I would rather find out, but I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret from him :) The problem I have is that I was walking through the baby section today and realized there are NO gender-neutral baby clothes anymore! At first I thought we'd have to get everything in green, yellow and red, but colors aren't the problem - everything has either ruffles or a truck on it. So I'm worried if we really don't find out until the birth that we'll have to buy both boy and girl newborn clothes (even the onesies were definitely one or the other unless they were plain white!) and have to put off buying anything else until the baby is born. How did you handle it?
Plus I really don't want to have to do a lot of shopping with a newborn, and my husband cannot be trusted to pick out even his OWN clothes, lol.
I'm not having a shower since we live 2300 miles away from everyone we know right now. I think if we get anything from friends and family it will be in the form of a gift card.

Have a trusted friend or family member go with you both to the ultrasound. Let the tech know that you want it to be a suprise to both of you but for the tech to let your friend know. Shopping can be done for you and it can be kept a secret from you until your little bundle arrives. I am sure the person you choose would be one of the people to visit you at the hospital and could bring you a few outfits to try on your new one for pictures and the ride home. They can also let others know and quite a few things can be tucked away for you without letting you know the secret.

2009-06-03 23:25:26 by I Block Stupid People

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I've always thought I'd like to wait until birth to find out the gender of my baby, and just buy lots of white and green baby clothes, bedding, etc.
However, on all the baby shows I watch people go all-out pink or blue, and on this forum people suggest buying all the stuff you need after you find out the baby's gender at 20 weeks.
So if your second child is a different gender, do you spend tons of money on all-new baby gear of a new color?

What did you/ will you do with your baby?
It would make sense to buy cheap things, like clothes, in either pink or blue after the baby is born. I'm just confused about why you'd spend several hundred dollars on an all pink (or all blue) nursery, car seat, stroller, etc. :)

You can still find lots of gender neutral clothing, if you look around. I found tons of very cute beige, light blue (very cute on little girls too), dark earthy greens, etc. for my son. I then used most of his old baby clothes for my daughter when she came along.

The best thing you can do when you're preparing for a new baby is read lots of books and never, ever watch trendy baby television programs. They're just trends, and while a few people follow the wave of rampant consumerism, most people in the real world just do what works.

2008-02-02 22:48:38 by Tres Leches

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Me and my new husband LaTyrone are going to adopt an African American baby that needs a home. Being a Gay couple we want to teach our baby that he doesn't have to be afraid of his homosexuality and that he should be proud of it.

LaTyrone and I believe that babies should have gender neutral names so that if they decide to have gender reassignment surgery they can keep the name that their loving fathers gave them.

We were thinking of Sam DeShawn Tuirami for the baby's full name. Isn't that cute:)

We were thinking of getting him boys and girls clothes so that gender roles aren't forced upon him like his fathers had to go through.

Gender reassignment is a big deal (and completely separate from the homo/hetero/bi sexuality issue). Why would you want to set your child up for that?

Human sexuality is fluid, gender is not. If your child decides to go down that path then that's fine, but why confuse a young child with notions of gender reassignment before they even understand the concept of gender (it's not until 5 or 6 that they really get it, and even then...)

Gender and sexuality are an important part of your identity. Let your child define their own identity, it's not your call. And please be careful not to project your "stuff" on to the child (easier said than done, I know - we all have baggage - but as parents we must at least try)

As for gender roles, given your past experiences don't you think you could both be intelligent, mature and enlightened enough to demonstrate to your child that gender roles and sexuality are not the same thing? And that neither should be more important to you or anyone else than your humanity? All this gender and sexuality stuff is just labels. Mother, father, good, bad, white, black, class etc - aren't we all human before we are any of these things? And even before we call ourselves humans, aren't we all souls? Isn't it our spirit/soul that makes who we truly are? Isn't that a more important lesson to teach your child?

There's a bigger picture.

BTW: Sam is a cute name.

2008-07-31 16:56:39 by Father Goose

I am not finding out the sex of my baby and am finding it difficult to find many items(clothes, bedding. etc) that are gender-neutral. Our theme for the nursery is going to be yellow and white w/bumblebees ... Any suggestions? Besides online stores as I don't have a credit/debit card.

At both Wal-Mart and Target they have the baby clothes (down the isles that are separate from the rest of the infant/toddler clothes) seperated, they have a pink section, a blue section, and then a yellow/green section. There are a LOT of gender neutral clothes out there!

As far as the bedding just keep looking, Wal-Mart, Target, K-Mart, Babies R Us, JC Pennies, Sears, they all have great selections in stores and online. Or you could try eBay, you can set up a PayPal account to pay straight out of your checking account without having to use a debit/credit card.

Good luck :)

2008-05-18 13:56:57 by olympia_fireworks

I am 22 weeks pregnant, and I have already had my first sonogram. Good news: The baby seems healthy and happy, of which I am extremely grateful for! Unfortunately, 'junior' hates having it's picture taken, so we were unable to determine the sex of the baby. We tried everything. I coughed, I walked, we gently probed my abdomen, I flipped onto my side, drank water, and begged and pleaded (lol), but the baby just didn't want to show us the proverbial goods. I have another sonogram appointment in 2 weeks, and this will be my last chance to find out. I know this seems kinda wierd, but this is my first baby and I am anxious to know the sex. Does anyone have any ideas for getting the baby in a good position? Don't get me wrong, the bottom line is having a healthy baby, but I would really like to know, as there is only so many gender neutral baby clothes out there - and I don't think I can take much more green or yellow (lol). Thanks in advance for any input!
Thanks mommyinaugust for your suggestions, I laughed so hard, my baby started kicking! It's good to know I am not the only one who has gone through this. And I really appreciate everyone else's suggestions, perhaps the next sonogram will be the one!

I love my baby no matter what, healthy, hunchback, or otherwise. As for 'manipulating' my baby or imposing roles on it, or whatever someone said . . . ok seriously? I am not trying to determine anything that hasn't already been determined when he/she was conceived. And anyways, if a mom can't give her child a complex who can? Lighten up people! lol

LOL!! I almost ended upwith the same results you did, but gratefully, she showed herself!! She was moving so much the tech was having a hard time measuring her. Try this, my baby hates it when my bladder is full, I've heard other babies hate it too. As a result, she moved a lot, as when I did my last ultrasound. Also, I know it sounds funny, but I had a talk with her while waiting in the waiting room!! lol I know it had nothing to do with it, but it was fun!
Also, try noticing what gets your baby moving. Mine also moves a lot while I'm eating, or when I'm hungry and getting ready to eat. I don't mean take a Big Mac with you and lay on the bed and eat it while the tech performs the ultrasound, which would be hilarious though!! lol I'm just giving you some examples of what gets my baby moving, and maybe these examples will get you thinking of your own baby's movements.
I know what you mean about being anxious, I was too!!! When you find out the baby's sex, you will be walking on air!!! No matter the sex of the baby! For me, it was almost as if the baby now had a character, (if that makes sense). We can finaly say "she", and imagine a chubby little girl!
Well, good luck and CONGRATS!!

2007-04-06 23:53:27 by nightscare0